Starting fresh: The New Year for Blended Families

It's a new year, yes we are right in the middle of January, but do allow me the opportunity to say HAPPY NEW YEAR and welcome to the blended family club.

Welcome to my blogs. This is the space I will be using to connect with you, where I will be sharing current and interesting blended family stories. What best time to start like now, right at the beginning of a new calendar year. We now have a moment to start afresh, reflect, learn from the past year so we can thrive in the new year.

Design your Family Life with Ease

“Yes being in a blended family is not easy, but it is doable. Love brought you here after all, so lead with your heart and let love lead the way.”

Visualisation is key when it comes to raising thriving families, so let's start here. How would you love to connect with all members of your blended family this year? Connecting with people requires one to be engaged and observant, understand the other persons needs and interests so that you engage with them at a level which they will be able to receive your gestures comfortably.

Do you want to create a harmonious and peaceful home environment? Then you need to understand who, what and where the triggers are in your family. Once you have identified this, then you need to develop strategies on how can you resolve this. This is what we will learn over the year from our club so do stay tuned in.

Be Creative

No one knows and understands the dynamics of your family better than you. Clear your mind of the clutter, the drama and the action that comes with being in a blended family. Do not give too much attention to it, I am not saying neglect it, but truly speaking you cannot be controlled by negativity and stress. Rather focus your energy on what is working, whilst managing the problems at hand, nurture what is good and the achievements of your family.

Let your Family Thrive

“Stay true to yourself, don't be shy to show love, and be content with what you have."

There are many challenges that come with bring in a blended family, which family doesn't have challenges? Once we accept that:

1. Life has its ups and downs.

2. At times you may feel like you are not growing or moving forward with your life.

3. Your love may not be reciprocated/will be questioned.

Do not shy away from showing love to all members in your family, love will give them strength, love will give them comfort and in time trust will be built. This does not mean that you neglect yourself, how can you be able to love authentically when you do not show yourself love? We teach people how to treat us, have boundaries and stick to them, take time out to enjoy yourself and escape (pamper yourself), always remember most times what people say about you is a reflection of their own security/insecurity.

Get Inspired

Live. Learn. Love. And Enjoy 2021 and all that is come with.

Yours In Love

Zama Mkhize

Blended In Love SA